Recently a new yet dear friend asked me if I like homeschooling. She had been to our local public school’s Kindergarten Round-Up that day, and it seemed like she was considering her options. Of course, I told her I Love homeschooling. But I’ve been thinking about that conversation ever since. And with my seminar coming up, I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching about what homeschooling really means to me.
The truth is, I do Love homeschooling. Since I started this journey four years ago, my life has been fuller and richer than it has ever been. I have not only taught my Littles, I have learned so many things about myself I don’t think I could begin to count them. Like, I am a natural teacher. You might think that’s an odd thing to discover After I started homeschooling, especially considering my history in educational employment, but I’m not just talking about teaching my kids here. I have helped people decide whether or not to homeschool. I have mentored peers who were looking to improve their homeschool experience. That discovery led to this blog and to the confidence to submit articles to homeschooling magazines. I am not ‘bad’ at math and science, as I was convinced I was when I was young. I have the capacity to learn the things I need to know to teach my Littles what they want to know. They have changed me, all these discoveries. They have made me better and stronger.
When someone approaches me with the desire to learn about homeschooling, I am filled with the desire to teach them. I’ve promised that friend to get together and discuss things with her, but with a new round of heavy snow coming in, we have to postpone. Because of that, I’m going to give a little advice here. What do I want to say to people who are considering, even minimally, taking the chance of homeschooling their children?
Go for it. That’s going to be my answer every time. There are so many benefits to parent, child, family relationships, that any argument against it becomes powerless. I read an article once called, “Why Homeschooling Can Be a Bad Idea.” I kept it because there were no Real arguments in it, and it reminds me of all the reasons I Do homeschool.
Link to College at Home Study
The first reason given was (Captain Obvious, anyone?) the socialization factor. The article claimed that “Isolating children from the outside world can affect his social skills, or worse, result in phobias and other disorders in social settings.” WHAT? What parent who cares enough to devote her life to teaching her children would then proceed to isolate her children from the world? A study created by College at Home shows that homeschool children test better on socialization than public school children by a score of 14.42. Why? Because homeschool children aren’t stuck in a classroom for 13 years with 30 other kids their exact age, who are doing the exact same things, and learning to think in the exact same ways. Homeschool children tend to have friends from all ages and social classes. I have never known a homeschool child who couldn’t hold his own in conversations with anyone from infancy to elderly. They are polite, they are thoughtful, they are usually mature far beyond their years.
The second reason the article gave went like this: “Kids may not get education that is well-rounded, and the knowledge learned may be confined to the biases of the parents. Kids may not able to explore other beliefs and points of view. This can develop close-mindedness in children, or at worse, bigotry.” See the above paragraph. This argument is too absurd to hold any merit. It barely warrants my response. It actually seems to come from a place of close-minded ignorance and bigotry. Considering that they still teach that Christopher Columbus was a hero of the modern world in public school, how can that quote be anything more than ironic? Yes, homeschooling gives parents a chance to teach their religion to their children without interference, but since we can’t even honor our country in public schools anymore, how is that a bad thing? A good homeschooling parent teaches their littles a subject from all sides and lets the littles form opinions themselves. That’s kinda part of the point.
Third, the article states, “Parents who are not qualified to teach could limit the scope of a child’s knowledge.” Again, What? That same study from College at Home shows that homeschool students test higher across the board than public school students. The difference between those with parents certified to teach and non-certified parents? 1%. I’m not kidding. Refer back to the part where I said I’ve learned I don’t suck at math and science. I never took chemistry in high school or college because I was afraid of it. But we’re taking it now, and all three of us are excelling! 🙂 The thing is, if we don’t know something our kids need to learn, we’re grown-ups with brains of our own–We Can Learn It Ourselves. There are too many resources out there to help us along, such as the What Your x-Grader Needs to Know series of books by E.D. Hirsch, Jr., for us to teach with a limited scope.
The fourth reason? “Homeschoolers may miss the inspiration provided by the occasional great teacher. How many great men were influenced by mentors other than their parents?”
Does ‘mentors other than their parents’ have to mean public school teachers? Perhaps that mentor can Be the child’s own parent. What a crazy idea! Or maybe it’s their minister, an aunt or uncle, an elderly person they visit at a nursing home, a scout master. This one pushed my buttons. Again, coming from a place of ignorance. Don’t fear that homeschooling will rob your child of the opportunity to have mentors. If anything, it can give them a more diverse field from which to choose.
Ah! “Homeschooled children miss advantages of learning in a classroom setting. This involves being challenged and encouraged by fellow students, working within structure and beyond book-learning, such as respecting authority outside of their parents, following orders and procedures, as well as participatory events such as playing in the band or orchestra, or team sports.”
So what they’re saying is, homeschools have no structure and only do book-learning. How many of you homeschoolers work like that? I don’t know a single homeschooling parent who teaches exclusively from books and provides no structure to the homeschool day. Also, what advantage is there to having to raise your hand to express your thoughts? The only advantage there is to the teacher, who would indeed have her hands full if all her students spoke their thoughts without waiting for some kind of prompt. But that’s not how the real world works, and it shouldn’t be how we teach our youth to operate. I’ve already said that homeschool kids tend to be more polite and mature, so it follows they have plenty of respect for authority and following procedure. I’m trying to wrap my mind around what the author imagines homeschool to be like, and I just can’t get there. If you are considering homeschooling, please don’t worry that your kids will turn out to be lazy sloths who disrespect authority and can’t follow rules. That is stuff littles are supposed to learn at home, anyway. Also, the big Disadvantage of the classroom setting–having to share the teacher’s attention with so many other students–far outweighs any advantages. And I’m honestly not sure I agree that there are any advantages.
Finally, the article states, “Parents have to juggle homeschooling with their own social needs and personal interests, desire to work, and financial needs.” That is true. The one true statement about homeschooling in the entire article. But isn’t it also true of parenting in general? Don’t we make sacrifices for our children every single day without ever regretting it? Listen, if your social needs and personal interests are more important than your child’s education, by all means, do not homeschool. You would not be good at it, anyway. But if you’re children are truly the most important things in your life, then there’s nothing to be afraid of. You might have to give up working. You might have to tighten the budget. You might not get as much time with your friends or have as much money for entertainment.
But you don’t have to miss a minute of your kids’ lives. You don’t have to worry about what terrible social skills they may be learning from other kids at school. You get to be there for them for one-on-one learning Every Day. They know that you have made them your number one priority and they appreciate the sacrifices you make. Trust me. My Littles tell me almost daily how grateful they are to be learning at home.
My advice if you’re considering homeschooling your child? Go for it. There’s no reason not to.